It’s official! My husband, Eben, & I are officially in the “pool” to adopt an infant.
Eben & I have completed the application and home study process, which determines that we are viable candidates to be adoptive parents. This process also helps us to determine our comfort zones and boundaries around adoption. We have filled out a “preference sheet” with specifics such as gender, ethnicity, birth parent medical history, birth mother exposure to nicotine, alcohol & drugs and contact with birth parents post adoption. Knowing what we are comfortable with is very important to this process.
We are now waiting. Waiting to have our preference sheet matched with a birth mother’s preference sheet. Then the birth mother is given photo books (our life in pictures) for all the couples that fit. And she selects the couple she wants as adoptive parents.
This part of the process takes on average 1-2 years. We will have about 1-2 months notice, once we are chosen to be adoptive parents. But as our social worker said at our last meeting, “At the end of this process, you will have a baby!”
What does this mean for you? Good question…I will continue to see clients up until we have the baby. This will happen sometime in the next 1-2 years. Before the baby arrives, I will get about 1-2 months advance notice that we have been matched with a birth mother. As soon as I know this I will let you know.
I will be taking approximately 6 months off for maternity leave. (Yes, I do realize that with a child in the picture plans have a way of changing.) Karen Waters (the awesome massage therapist now working at Stillpoint with me) will be available to see you while I am on maternity leave. When I come back from leave, it will not be full-time right away. I will need to wait and see, to decide what will work best for all of us.
In the meantime, please know that I am committed to continuing my work with you. While you will not be able to watch my belly grow, I am sure you will hear the excitement grow in my voice. Thank you for your support and flexibility in this new adventure!